If I’d amassed a share of the Rolling Stones pension pot, alleged to amount to £1bn, it might have been more obvious what my wife saw in me.
As it is, however, the last 14 years have not only been the happiest of my life: they have also brought me a level of financial security I have never known – owing, in large part, to sharing my life for the first time with a wife with whom it is possible to talk and plan sensibly about money.
He is the author of a new book, The Lonely Hearts Club (his first work of fiction at the age of 88), which is closely based on his decades of clinical experience and research into what really goes on inside relationships.
So many of my female friends of a certain age are searching for love, on the internet or elsewhere, and coming up with precisely zero. It has led me to conclude that though ever more of us are looking for true love in our later years — in fact, dating sites aimed at the over-50s are the fastest growing among all age groups — the fact is very few of us will ever find it.
The fact that he looked like a sack of wet sawdust and had the conversational talents of a clogged drain did not seem to come into the reckoning. The same woman had once told me “Money is what women care about most of all” and, while she was obviously speaking for herself, she may also have been voicing the general approach to sex and marriage of a certain category of womanhood.
Dr Friedman tells the stories of about a dozen men between 50 and 80 — all but one divorced, widowed or never married — who are composites of his former patients, and investigates why there’s such a cavernous gulf between them and their female peers.
Maybe the fascination with older women started with Mrs.
Robinson in 1967's “The Graduate,” (or before), but the term “MILF” (mom I'd like to f*ck) wasn't popularized until Stifler's mom in “American Pie.” From then, it seems that increasing numbers of younger men were chasing older women. Some women don't discover their sexual capabilities until they reach their 30s or beyond.
“I’m not his daughter,” she said as she took my arm and we walked away. So, despite the age gap, something appears to have been right between us.
Tomorrow, we will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary with our two little girls (passers-by on the pavement routinely take me to be their grandfather).